Happy Friday, everyone! This week has been emotionally exhausting for me due to a number of reasons. School, personal relationships, negative energies omitted from people around me, and the retrogrades are all taking a toll on me. There are many ways that I try to self-preserve and build myself back up after long weeks of exhaustion and drainage.
Know What's On the Cosmic Calendar
When I know when and which retrogrades are coming, I can prepare accordingly. It helps to look up when the planets are going into retrograde, not just to equip yourself with tools to ground yourself, but to decrease the panics around them. Retrogrades are normal cosmic events that we are fully prepared to handle. There's a lot of panic and misinformation around them, I just personally believe we all need to calm down and educate ourselves.
This is the last week that Venus will be in retrograde, she returns to her normal orbit on the 15th. Saturn and Mercury however are teaming up to enter their retrogrades, Saturn's began yesterday and Mercury's will begin on the 9th.
When Venus is in retrograde, our relationships, finances and images of the self may be affected. Whether it's for better or for worse, it's our responsibility to acknowledge these changes and then act accordingly. If we find ourselves spending too much, find ways to budget yourself. Or, if your self-image is finally at a place where you're happy and confident with who you are, write down what makes you feel this way. After the retrograde ends, you'll remember that feeling in times of self-consciousness and be able to guide yourself back to the way you felt before! It's all about documentation, observing and problem-solving (said the Virgo).
When Saturn enters retrograde, we will feel a shift in our perceptions of reality, commitment to long term projects, and a general change in the structure of most aspects in our lives. Saturn governs structure and so it's important to equip yourself with tools to maintain or create structure. If you're affected by the retrograde negatively, you'll want to think of how you can repair or build from scratch the structures that have fallen. Retrogrades remind us that we should approach things differently, so if something isn't working it might not mean that we need to rebuild it, but rather find a new "thing" altogether.
And finally, as you're probably familiar because it happens often, Mercury's retrograde affects communication, business transactions, and even technology. When Mercury is in retrograde, pay attention to the ways that you and other people express themselves. If there is a lot of miscommunication, don't just blame it on the retrograde and continue on! Find ways to reach a common ground between yourself and the people you're interacting with. You might even find that these new methods of communication are even more effective after the retrograde has passed.
Get Back into My Routines
A Virgo without a routine is a Virgo who is lost, in my opinion. I thrive when I have tasks, responsibility and me-time. The candles pictured at the top of the post are the ones I light during my morning yoga routine. Orange for creativity, sexual expression and sensual connectivity; green for compassion, unconditional love and kindness. I have a citrine next to the orange candle for will power and confidence, as well as a calcite next to the green candle for protection. Doing yoga in the morning, even just for 15 minutes, is something I started doing about a month ago. My Virgo sister encouraged me to just get on the mat, just make it happen. And I did. It was so hard to start at first, but after a couple minutes of being on the mat, I would feel my muscles loosen up, my tensions ease, and my heart would open.
Yoga might not be the self-preservation exercise for everyone, but I encourage you to find what makes you feel productive, warm and loved. That is self-preservation, to me. It's similar to self care, but more active in establishing a foundation for yourself. Self care is the maintenance that comes after you have that foundation.
Do the Thing You Said You Would Do
And yes, this is sort of the way I approached yoga, but I've always wanted to read Queen Afua's "Heal Thyself." I started reading it a couple days ago and I can already feel that this is going to have a profound impact on my health. She stresses the importance of fasting and taking care of your body in order to achieve purification. I'm a little nervous to start but I think I'll be ready to approach the fasts when I've finished the book.
Do that thing you wanted to do. Treat yourself. It doesn't have to be a responsibility like, "I said I was going to do laundry but it's been a week and my clothes are piling up," unless responsibility is what you feel you need and want! Try to do little things, even if it means having an extra cookie before bed, or letting yourself sleep in an extra hour. If you feel in control, you are well on your way to self-preservation.
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That's all for today, everyone. I hope you're finding ways to take care of yourself in a healthy, productive way. I know I've had a tough week, but doing yoga yesterday morning really helped get me back into a mindset that reminded me: you will persevere! There are so many ways to empower yourself and I truly wish you all the best of luck in finding and making use of those ways. Much love.